BLOG: What Words Comfort You at Trying Times?
You could spend a few days, maybe even a few weeks reading through site after site of favorite quotes. You can go to the store and find them painted on wood and canvas. You can spot them on t-shirts as you walk down the road.
Quotes are something that a lot of people hold close to their hearts for comfort, for strength, for support, for laughter.
For each of us, someone else’s words may be just what we need to get us through a specific moment, day or rough time in our lives. For some, those words could carry you through your entire life.
One of my favorite quotes is by American poet Robert Frost (1874-1963):
In three words I can sum up
everything I’ve learned about life.
It goes on.
Suffering the loss of a loved one is one of the hardest things we have to move on from. There are days when just the thought of it can break my heart. Two years ago my grandmother was losing the fight against cancer. Instead of moving her to a hospice center, my aunt decided to have her move in with her and use visiting hospice. She wanted every minute she could have with her mom.
When we went over to visit, my girls did not see the battle. My girls saw their great grandmother smiling at the sight of their faces. They heard her laughing at their stories. They heard her sharing stories from when she was their age and telling them her favorite things like ice cream, birds and dogs.
While I was sitting there with them, my mind was already moving to the loss that would come sooner rather than later. I looked at my aunt and could feel her pain and heartache as she gave my grandmother another dose of medication. I couldn’t grasp how my grandmother was chit chatting and laughing with my girls while her body was being ravaged. I couldn’t grasp how she was still so strong in spirit when the doctors had told her it would be just two weeks before the fight would be over and she would not be the victor.
On the day that my grandmother passed away, my aunt called to tell me it was time and that I should come over as soon as possible. My husband had taken our girls on their annual camping trip in the Shenandoah Mountains because we thought we had a couple weeks…not a couple days. I had to make this drive alone and my thoughts ran from “It’s not fair!”, “Cancer sucks!” to “Why isn’t there a cure yet?!” I could feel the anger boiling inside of me. I could feel the loss before it had happened.
When I went over to give my grandmother a kiss and let her know that I was there she didn’t say she was afraid. She didn’t say she was mad. She asked me if my girls were going to be okay camping with all of the heavy rain that was coming their way.
My grandmother passed away not even thirty minutes after this. She is the one that brought Robert Frost’s quote close to my heart where I hold it tightly and think of her.
Life does indeed go on.
What is one of your favorite quotes?